When talking about sexual consent, most people first think of "whether it was agreed upon" or "whether there was refusal." However, from a practical risk perspective, the real problem is often not about consent at the moment, but rather whether it can be clearly understood and traced back afterwards.
In intimate relationships, both parties may interpret language, actions, and situations differently. These differences do not surface when the relationship is smooth, but once disputes arise, they can evolve into serious breaches of trust, even posing legal and societal risks.
The Essence of Sexual Consent: Not Ritual, but Consensus
From a first principles perspective, the core of sexual consent is singular: both parties clearly understand each other's wishes and boundaries without coercion, misunderstanding, or information asymmetry.
Why Verbal Consent is Insufficient for Risk Management
- Cannot confirm the specific timing and conditions
- Cannot eliminate post-facto cognitive differences
- Lacks verifiability in front of third parties
The Practical Role of Digital Sexual Consent Records
HeYi provides a mechanism for clarifying boundaries beforehand and allowing for review afterwards.
Limitations and Reality
Digital consent records are not legal liability waivers; they are a risk reduction tool.